Mama, Sometimes We Need To Put Down The To-Do List
How would you feel if I told you mama, that you need to put down your to do list today and why it’s so important that you do?
Putting down the to-do list is not something I do very easily. I tend to border on being a workaholic.
By nature, I am a doer. The more I can get done, the better.
But as a busy mom who is constantly going from one thing to the next, there are times that I need to remember to put down the to-do list and instead, remember to spend time with my children before they are grown and leave home.
With my love for checklists and the thrill of getting things done, I have a hard time doing things without knowing there is a purpose and being able to measure that accomplishment. I think that’s partly why I enjoy organizing and cleaning so much; the results are usually pretty obvious and it gives me a huge sense of satisfaction.
Getting things done can be a good thing, however, I’ve realized that it can also be a negative thing if that’s all I focus on. As a mom, getting things accomplished and checked off the list shouldn’t be our top priority. Our family should be.
I admit, this can be hard for me at times. Not because I don’t like my family, believe me, I love my family and I enjoy spending time with them, but sometimes finding the balance between all that has to get done day-to-day and being intentional to take time to connect with them, is hard.
There’s always so much to do between homeschooling, meals, cleaning our home, cleaning for clients and working at home, that I often don’t feel like I have time to stop to connect. I have to be intentional to take focused time with them, especially now that they’re no longer babies and are far more independent.
Here’s the thing, the truth is, as mom’s, we don’t have the time, NOT to stop.
A clean, organized home may save our sanity, but it really has no eternal value. However, our relationships, raising the kids and connecting with them, does have eternal value.
Our children are only little once and we get this amazing blessing of raising up the next generation, but we only get one shot at it. There are no do-overs when it comes to bringing up our children. Eventually they grow up and they grow a lot faster than we realize.
I don’t want to waste what little time I have with them at home, being so busy doing “good” things that I forget to just enjoy and connect with them.
I have been learning a lot about the word balance lately. The pendulum can swing to either extreme in pretty much every area of our lives, including motherhood and homemaking.
How do we get all that we need to get accomplished, AND spend time with our family; intentionally building those relationships?
Sometimes we have to put it down the to-do list
There are days we have to walk away from the never-ending to-do list. It’s not going anywhere, but our children are. If we wait to build that relationship with them until we have it all done (the to do’s), our children will be grown.
I’ve been learning that “good” doesn’t mean best, and busy doesn’t mean success
Good things can be a distraction from what’s most important. Yes, I do think keeping a clean home, feeding my family home cooked meals and working on my business are good things, but I have to make sure that I am not sacrificing what’s good for what’s best.
I need to make sure my family gets the best of me, not the rest of me, after I’m burnt out from all the other things I need to do.
It’s all about balance
It is possible to balance homemaking and motherhood.
Constantly spending time with our children and always entertaining them while the house suffers is not great.
We can end up with children who don’t know how to play independently and who end up whiny when they don’t have our attention, plus the stress of a disastrous home. That isn’t peaceful or helpful for anyone.
On the other hand, spending all our time cleaning and organizing while ignoring those around us isn’t great either.
That’s why we need to find the balance between homemaking and enjoying motherhood
This last year has been busy on a whole new level for me. I have been going from one thing to the next. I feel like I haven’t had a chance to really connect one on one with my kids or time to just stop and enjoy being with them. Even with them schooling at home.
Between working at home, cleaning for clients, appointments, schooling, meals and keeping up on the home, it feels as if there’s little time to stop. And that makes my mama heart hurt. That isn’t how I want my mom life to look.
What will you choose today?
Today I am choosing what’s best and most important instead of all the to-do’s.
There are a million and one things I could be doing today, but instead I’m going to put my to-do list down, put work away, stay off the computer and enjoy spending time with my children.
My home may be a little less tidy today, the bathroom probably won’t get cleaned, and dinner may end up being takeout, but that’s ok! There really isn’t anything else that HAS to get done today. The housework can wait; there’s always tomorrow.
A new agenda
Today, maybe a walk, a trip to the library, lunch out, a picnic, or a visit to their favourite dollar store are all that I need to “accomplish”. It may seem silly, but I realize how valuable this time is and how much they enjoy those simple things. Today is not about me and what I have to do. Today is about connecting with my kids.
Now it’s your turn. Get off Social Media, throw the to-do’s out the window for the day and do something fun with your kids and just enjoy them. Even if it’s just an hour or two, you’ll be happy you did and so will they!
What about you? Do you find it hard to juggle all the things and remembering to stop and take time to enjoy your children?