Motherhood Is A Calling.
Motherhood became my calling when I became a mom.
Being a mom can be the most amazing, beautiful and rewarding experience in your life!
It is also taxing, challenging, and exhausting. The task of motherhood with all its beauty, doesn’t make it an easy task.
It challenges you physically, mentally and emotionally and in ways that you never anticipated. You will be challenged, stretched and grow in ways that you wouldn’t without children.
It is a constant juggling act to balance it all and to do it with grace, intention and joy.
Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court.
— Psalm 127:3-5
Proverbs 22:6 "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."
Laying down our lives
As a mom, we are in the process of laying down our lives to serve others, day in and day out; to cherish and train them up.
Motherhood is not an inconvenience, an interruption or a less desirable occupation.
It’s countercultural in this day and age, at a time when children are seen as accessories or as disposable.
God help us! That grieves my heart just to write that.
Our culture has come so far away from what God values. Instead of loving what He loves, we chase our dreams, our goals, money, and an easy life.
Choosing joy in the trenches of motherhood
We have the choice of how we are going to approach motherhood. We can choose joy, intention, grace and laughter in the everyday, or we can see the role of motherhood as a drudgery.
Are we counting down the days until they are grown and out of the house? Or are we enjoying the moments and embracing the good, the bad and the ugly?
The dream of motherhood
When I was growing up I couldn’t wait to have children. All I wanted to be was a wife and a mom.
Being the eldest of 6, I had a pretty good idea of how to take care of kids…at least from the aspect of meeting their physical needs.
I knew how to feed, clothe and provide a safe environment. I figured, I was capable enough to do it well, but I was missing one of the most important (and most difficult) aspects, that I wouldn’t be able understand until I was a mother.
What I didn’t realize was that there is so much more to just clothing, feeding and providing a safe environment.
These little people don’t come fully equipped, ready to take on life. They don’t start out kind, generous, patient or self-controlled. None of us do and anyone who’s raised a toddler can understand that ;)
I’m sure I knew that, but I didn’t fully understand the weight or the privilege it would be to raise them nor the amount of instruction, training and self-discipline that is involved. I assumed it would be easy.
The reality of motherhood
I felt very at ease with being a mother for the first time, what I didn’t expect was to go into labour 5 weeks early, a long hospital stay, or that breastfeeding would be such a challenge.
We made it through, but that was just the beginning of the hard work that was to come.
I remember when I was very pregnant with baby number two, trying to teach my first born to obey. She was trying to touch something she wasn’t allowed to touch, but she kept ignoring me and doing it over and over again.
I finally decided to remove her from the situation, but I was so frustrated, why wasn’t she listening to me!? I was her mother after all!?
That was the start of it…
I remember thinking once toddlerhood is past, it’ll get easier. They’ll listen and obey and do what they’re told the first time.
Bahahahah,…little did I know that child number 2, would be my biggest challenge yet!
13 years in the trenches of motherhood and I have come to the end of myself so many times. I have been worn down by the mental gymnastics, the bickering, constant training or the continual feeling that I was failing them…on a daily basis.
Thank God for His mercy and grace, and children who are willing to forgive in a heartbeat.
Why mommy matters
Mamas, we have the big, amazing responsibility and privilege to raise our children. It’s our job (and dad’s too of course, but I’m talking to moms).
We are accountable for the job we do and I know we are exhausted and there are days that we want to give up.
But we can’t give up! Our children are counting on us to teach them how to be responsible and kind; how to have self-control and be generous; to love God with all their heart, soul and mind, and to love one another.
Who will teach them if we don’t?
What we are teaching them? What we are living out in front of them and how we respond toward them, will be planted in their heart for a lifetime. They are watching us.
Motherhood is a high calling and opportunity for our greatest joy! It has eternal value and impact.
There is nothing more that the enemy would like, than to destroy the family unit. If he can’t distract us with bad things or feelings that overwhelm, he’ll preoccupy us with good things. Things that take our focus away from what God has called us to do.
There is no paycheque, or promotions, no accolades or prestige with motherhood.
There is so much emphasis on serving and ministering outside the home, but what about inside our home? We need to recognize that our families, our children are a ministry within our homes.
Just like an athlete that wants to compete in the Olympics. An athlete doesn’t just show up and hope for the best. They put in the time and effort to train. They discipline themselves to do the hard things, they set goals and they have a vision for the outcome.
We have to be purposeful and intentional in raising them up.
When I grow up I want to be her…
Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.”
What is your vision for your family?
I believe every mother wants their children to grow up to be kind, caring, generous, hard-working, thoughtful and have so many other good qualities, but it takes intention.
I know you’re weary, sweet mama, but keep going! Your little ones need you to train them up.
When you’re tired, exhausted and feeling discouraged, remember to rest, but don’t give up. Take your worries, your burdens, hurts and frustrations to your Creator.
He is the One who created you and your children, He has the instruction manual.
Matthew 11:28-30 New International Version (NIV)
28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.