Intentional And Purposeful Living-For This Year And Beyond
I think living an intentional life is important in our role as wife, homemaker and mother.
We can get so busy with the day-to-day tasks, that we forget our purpose.
I love this scripture that tells us how we should be walking out our daily lives.
Be careful how you walk—not as unwise, but as wise, making the most of your time (recognizing and taking advantage of each opportunity and using it with wisdom and diligence), because the days are filled with evil. Ephesians 5:15-16 (NIV and AMP)
Intentional definition: Done on purpose; deliberate, intended, planned, willful, purposeful.
In 2017, I decided that Intentional would be my word for the year, but I’ve decided that it should be a word I use for life.
Living This Year With Intention And Purpose
The new year is here and it’s a new beginning.
Whether it's a Monday, the start of a new month or a new year, it doesn't matter. They all feel like a new start to me. It’s a good thing too because I feel like I need to start over, often, as there’s always room for improvement in all areas of my life.
New Year’s resolutions are not my thing, but I like the idea of making goals and plans. I like to think I’m intentional about growing, changing and creating new habits when I see need for improvement.
It’s a nice thought, but my goodness is it ever easy to just do the same old thing again and again. To default to the same old way of doing things because let’s face it, change is hard.
Stop Living By Default
I have been so guilty of doing the day-to-day by default, rather than taking time to really reflect and remember to enjoy the everyday moments.
Whether it’s relationships, finances, health/fitness, schooling the kids or keeping the home, it’s easy to default to what’s easiest and not be deliberate; even if change would be for the best.
When we fail to live with intention, we fail to plan or set goals, which means we have nothing to aim for.
If we aim for nothing, we’ll hit it every time. I know even with well laid out plans and goals, we won’t hit the mark every time, but at least it gives us a direction to go.
I don’t want to live by default! I want to aim, reach, grow and plan.
I know God has big plans for each of our lives. Those plans aren’t necessarily what the world sees as “big” or “important”, but it’s more than just going through the motions of life. We are meant to be deliberate with the life we’ve been given.
Living Your Best Intentional Life
These are some of my favorite quotes and scripture to remind us to be intentional.
Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.Ephesians 5:15-16
You don’t decide your future, you decide your habits and your habits decide your future. What habits have you chosen?Rabbi Ralph Messer
The busier you are, the more intentional you must be.Michael Hyatt
Self-discipline is the ability to make yourself do something you don’t necessarily want to do to get a result you would really like to have. Andy Andrew
We are meant:
· to live intentionally
· to be careful how we live
· to make the most of every opportunity, moment and relationship
That doesn’t sound like just going through the motions, does it?
I know this isn’t new news, but I know I need the reminder occasionally.
I am being challenged to be more intentional every day and in all areas of my life, BUT if I don’t set goals or change my habits, then nothing will change.
Our Attitude Is Everything
Years ago, I was talking about raising godly kids with someone and they said, “we really don’t have to worry about it, we turned out ok”. Yikes!! Really? I was flabbergasted...have you read “Lord of the flies”? Left to our own devices, apart from the Lord our sinful nature takes over and it’s not pretty.
I know for a fact that our parents put a lot of time and prayer into raising us. If we turned out “ok” it wasn’t without intention on our parent’s part.
That comment hit me hard and got me thinking. Is that our attitude towards the rest of our lives?
“Meh, we don’t have to plan or budget, it’ll all work out for us.” How’s that working for you?
“We don’t need to be intentional with our food choices, it doesn’t affect our health.
“We don’t need to be careful about what we take in through our eyes and ears, it has no effect on us.” I’m always reminded of the song I learned in Sunday school, “oh be careful little eyes what you see...”
Don’t get me wrong, I am not talking about trying to do everything perfectly, it’s not possible. We’re going to screw up and make mistakes, but it doesn’t mean we don’t keep going.
Our life is a gift, and we only have one chance at it.
We need to be intentional with:
· Our marriages
· Raising children
· Family and friend relationships
· How we handle our finances
· What we spend our time doing
· Taking care of ourselves by implementing healthy habits
These are all so important and require intention to be done well.
We must be purposeful in the way we live our lives, if we want to see change and growth.
Habits Affect Your Life
I want you to ask yourself, are you happy with where you are at, or is there room for improvement? How do you feel about your marriage, parenting, work life, finances or the keeping of your home?
Is there an area that you want to make some changes?
I know it can seem overwhelming to create new habits, but it’s so worth it when it can change your life.
I’m not sure who said it, but I love the quote;
“Do something small every single day, towards your bigger goal, for a big change.”
Look at the people who have climbed out of debt, lost weight or created successful businesses; these are not overnight “chance” achievements.
Someone decided that their habits needed to change, and they became intentional with their goals to accomplish what they desired.
Intentional Living for My Life
Last year, I felt like I had made progress in most of the areas that I had wanted to, such as:
· Time Management
This year, I want to continue making improvements in these areas. Here are some of our goals.
This year we want to continue to pay off debt and save. We had some big expenses that come up in 2018 and now the dust has settled and we are moving forward.
In 2018, I wanted to be more intentional with the relationships with my children. I am very much a doer, so I often forget to stop and enjoy the moments with them. As a homeschool mom I spend time with them all day, every day, but I need to work on more focused individual non-school time with each of them.
While there was definite improvement in this area, I want to keep growing and putting in the effort.
This one, I don’t really like to talk about publicly, but if it encourages you, then it’s worth sharing.
Over the last year I’ve really let it slide. Let’s just say it’s been a steep slide.
Since starting Plum Cheeky Solutions, I have been spending way more hours sitting at the computer. This combined with minimum exercise has not been good for me. I don’t feel good and my clothes are getting a wee bit snug. It’s time to get intentional!!
Last year I felt like I took 2 steps forward in the fitness department and then 10 steps back. However, I’m not giving up!
Self-care for myself is of big importance this year and fitness falls in that category, so I am making it a priority.
Spiritually...and most importantly
I want to be intentional with my time. Just like the principle of the tithe (bringing the first 10%), I want to make sure I am giving the first of my day to the Lord. I notice a huge difference in my days and weeks when I spend time in prayer, thanksgiving and studying the Word before hitting the ground running for the day.
I know as a mom it sounds overwhelming to add one more thing to the never-ending to-do list, but don’t overcomplicate it.
Even if it’s just 10 minutes at the beginning of the day. Do it before you climb out of bed. It’s being intentional with how you start your day.
For 2019 I also want to start adding more time reading. There are some phenomenal books out there to encourage me in my journey as wife, mother and homemaker and I am excited to sink my teeth into them and apply them to my life.
As a Christian, I want my life to reflect and glorify my Creator in everything I do. I fall short daily, but I want my time to be used wisely.
I often check in with myself about how I am spending my time, and whether it’s beneficial?
Paying attention to what I am listening to, watching or reading? Is it glorifying to the Lord and does it help and encourage me to move in the direction of my goals?
Many years ago, my hubby and I decided to be more intentional with the music we listen to. It wasn’t bad music, but we made the decision to only listen to music that glorifies the Lord. Yes, I know it’s easy to put on any kind of music you enjoy, but what is the message in the song, or the attitude that’s coming across? We got intentional and threw away a lot of music.
We have done the same with what we watch. We are careful with what we watch, but we still need to be intentional with how much time we spend watching. We don’t have a T.V. (we watch on our computer) so that makes it easier, but there’s still room for improvement.
I want to live my best life and I want my family to live their best life, but I know the choices and decisions we make day to day influences that.
Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live.
Do we want a blessed life? If so, are the decisions and choices we’re making full of life?
Talking about being intentional, creating new habits and setting goals is great, but how do we do that practically?
Here are some suggestions that can help.
-What areas of your life need some minor adjustments or a complete overhaul this year?
Set Your Goal(s) and Create an Action Plan:
What changes do you want to see?
Create a game plan, by breaking down the actions you need to implement to see the desired result.
I am excited for you in this new year and beyond.
Here’s the thing with purposeful and intentional living; it’s not so much about a destination as it is a journey. It’s an ongoing process, with habits that move you in the direction of your goal(s).
Living fully with intention in your role as wife, mother or homemaker, gives you priorities, purpose and goals.
I have included some beautiful printables to help you plan your goals and create an action plan. Get the printable for 2019 "here" .
Let’s make 2019 our best year ever!
What are you most looking forward to achieving this year?