3 Simple Things You Need To Do To Keep Your Home Clean And Tidy
As a mom, I’ve had to give up the idea of having a perfectly clean home at all times. It’s just not possible, even if I was willing to devote all of my time to cleaning...which I’m not.
However, I do believe we are to take care of our homes and maintain clean and tidy, but we are not meant to be a slave to impossible standards.
I have found that there are a few simple things we need to do each day to maintain a clean and tidy home.
The one I’m sure you’ve heard before is maintenance. Every. Single. Day.
It’s true. Daily maintenance is important and a key to keeping your home clean, but keep in mind, daily maintenance doesn’t mean perfection and it doesn’t require hours and hours of work.
1. Have Realistic Expectations
Today I am giving you permission to let go of impossible expectations. Sometimes it can be hard to let go of perfectionism because we think that’s where our value is, but it’s simply not true. We are valuable because of who we are, and who God created us to be, not the state of our home, how organize we are or how clean the fridge is.
When we put our value in unrealistic expectations, we’re always going to feel like a failure.
You my friend, are not a failure!
Here’s the thing, while I’m giving you permission to let go of the impossible expectations, don’t go in the opposite direction and say, “Who cares, it’s impossible to keep a clean home (especially with kids), so why try?”
Yes, it can be harder to maintain our home with kids, and it’s a never-ending cycle, but it’s not impossible to keep your home clean and tidy; but first you must make peace with the fact that this is life with littles ;) Enjoy it mama and get your kids to help (check out these chore ideas for kids by age, and some printable chore charts).
Believe me, you will feel better about your home when you put in the effort to clean it, then if you do nothing at all. Messes don’t just clutter up our homes; they have a way of cluttering up our mental space too and it can weigh us down when we allow it to accumulate.
When we do nothing, it continues to get worse and then it’s that much harder to tackle the cleaning when we do decide to do something about it.
When I was first married, the biggest mess I had to deal with was dishes because we didn’t really make a lot of messes. I would clean our home and do all our laundry on Friday, and it would stay that way for the most part, until the following week.
I have to say I was pretty proud of myself and thought I had it all figured out about keeping my home clean. Which is rather funny because I grew up with 5 brothers and I remember how frustrated I was when they couldn’t care less about clean and tidy. Apparently, I thought it would be different when I had a family.
Haha! Anyone else laughing at me? I’m still laughing at how naïve I was.
I must’ve been in my “I think I have life figured out” stage.
That only lasted so long because then we had kids.
One kid- I still managed the cleaning and organizing fairly well, but definitely had to pick up more often.
Two kids-It was definitely getting harder to maintain my home…and then number three came along…
By this point with 2 little whirlwinds making messes faster than I could clean up, and a newborn, it seemed impossible to have a perfect home. And it was. Perfection is impossible, but I didn’t realize it then. I still thought my value was based on having a clean and tidy home at all times, and I was failing miserably.
I still thought that my home had to look perfect at all times, to the point it looked like nobody lived there. Except, we did live there.
The problem wasn’t my housekeeping skills. Part of the problem was the pressure I was putting on myself. There was this Pinterest perfect home standard that I wanted to maintain…but I couldn’t, and that was ok. I had to realize that it’s ok for our homes to not be perfect, for us to live in it, enjoy it, but still take care of it.
The problem with impossible expectations is that, we either push so hard to keep things perfect, that we never enjoy our space, and end up angry at those that are making the messes (sadly, I know this from experience). Or the standard in our head is so impossible, we give up because it’s discouraging. Who will even bother trying if they know they’ll fail?
Not many of us.
Pushing ourselves to reach perfection or giving up because it will never be perfect, are both bad situations.
2. Be Thankful For What You Have (this will change your perspective)
I finally realized that instead of beating myself up for not measuring up to the impossible standard, and grumbling about all that I needed to do, I decided to be thankful for the home I have and for my children. Thankful I have messes and littles who make those messes, to clean in the first place!
Here’s the thing. Being thankful for the home we have, can actually motivate us to take care of it. When we appreciate something, we make sure to treat it well. Does that make sense?
3. Create Habits To Maintain Your Home On A Continual Basis
So how do we maintain our home?
Maintaining a home can be broken down into daily, weekly and monthly tasks, plus decluttering and organizing on a consistent basis.
How To Maintain A Clean And Tidy Home
Clear The Clutter
Before you start with the daily and weekly tasks to keep up with the maintenance of your home, the first thing you are going to want to do that makes keeping your home easier, is to clear the clutter. Getting rid of garbage and excess stuff will be a huge help to you to reach your goal.
Not sure where to start when it comes to getting rid of clutter? Read this and print off your own declutter checklist.
Once you’ve taken the time to do a declutter sweep through the home, it’s time to break down the cleaning maintenance steps.
These are not meant for deep cleaning, they’re more like tidy tasks or maintenance. Such as dishes, sweeping, laundry, etc.
Weekly tasks are for a more thorough clean of high traffic areas. Such as cleaning bathrooms, washing floors, wiping out the fridge, etc.
Do these things on a weekly basis to keep your home from getting grimy. . This is what I do weekly in my home.
These are tasks that don’t need to be done every week, but are again more thorough cleaning and needing to be done on a monthly basis. More on that later.
I knowing that keeping our homes clean and tidy can feel like a never-ending task, and it is never ending as long as we live there, but it isn’t impossible.
The first 2 tips are more in your thoughts and attitude, while number 3 is the practical “rubber hits the road”.
What’s going on in our head influences our outlook. When we are thankful for something, we are far more likely to place value on it and take better care of it.
When we let go of impossible expectations, it makes life so much less stressful. We can move forward without an overwhelming burden of not measuring up.
Keeping our expectations realistic and being thankful for our homes, sets the right attitude when it comes to keeping out homes in order, but we still must maintain the home on a practical level. Just having a good attitude and realistic expectations is not enough to keep the house clean, we still have to do the work.
If you are unsure of where to start with keeping your home clean because it seems so overwhelming, just start with your mindset and a couple of the daily tasks. Once you have those down, add a few more and so on from there. Before you know it your home with be keeping itself clean ;)
What part of keeping your home clean do you find the hardest to maintain? Leave your comment below.