Dear Mom, Why You Need To Put Down The To-Do List
Why You Need To Put Down The To-Do List
I think I border on being a workaholic.
By nature, I am a doer. The more I can get done, the better.
I have a hard time doing things without knowing there is a purpose and being able to measure the accomplishment. I think that’s partly why I enjoy organizing and cleaning so much. The results are obvious.
I love a checklist and the thrill of getting things done.
This can be a good thing, but it can also be a negative thing because as a mom, always getting things accomplished shouldn’t be my top priority. My family should be.
I admit, this can be hard for me at times. Not because I don’t like my family, believe me, I love my family, but sometimes finding the balance between what has to get done and being intentional to take time to connect with them is hard.
There’s always so much to do between homeschooling, meals, cleaning my home, cleaning for clients and working on the blog, that I often don’t feel like I have time to stop to connect.
Here’s the thing, the truth is, we don’t have the time NOT to stop. A clean home, organized home may save our sanity, but it really has no eternal value. Raising our children and connecting with them, does. Our children are only little once and we get the amazing blessing of raising up the next generation, but we only get one shot at it.
I don’t want to waste what little time I have, or be so busy doing “good” things that I forget to just be, enjoy and connect.
I have been learning a lot about the word balance lately. The pendulum swings both ways with pretty much anything in life.
How do we get all that we need to get done AND spend time with our family building those relationships?
Sometimes we have to put it down and walk away.
There are days we have to walk away from the never-ending to-do list, because it will always be there. If we wait to have it all done, our children will be grown up and out of the house.
What I’ve been learning is that “good” doesn’t mean best, and busy doesn’t mean success.
Good things can be a distraction from what’s most important. Yes, I do think keeping a clean home, feeding my family home cooked meals and working on the business are good things, but I have to make sure that I am also being intentional with my relationships.
It’s all about balance.
Constantly spending time with our children and always entertaining them while the house suffers is not a good thing. We end up with children who don’t know how to play independently and end up whiny when they don’t have your attention, plus the stress of a disastrous home. That isn’t peaceful or helpful for anyone.
On the other hand, spending all our time cleaning and organizing while ignoring those around us isn’t healthy either.
Do you see what I mean about balance?
These last few weeks have been busy on a whole new level for me. I have been so busy going from one thing to the next that I haven’t had a chance to really connect with my kids and just enjoy being with them. Even with them homeschooling.
Between work (Plum Cheeky Solutions), cleaning clients, appointments, schooling, meals and keeping up on the home, there has been little time to stop. And that makes my mama heart hurt.
Today I am choosing what’s best instead of the to-do’s. My house is in fairly good order and dinner is in the slow cooker. There are a million and one things I could be doing, but today I’m going to put the list down, put work away, stay off the computer and just enjoying my children.
A walk, a trip to the library, lunch at some fast food joint and a visit to their favourite dollar store are all that I need to “accomplish” today. It may seem silly, but I realize how valuable this time is and how much they enjoy those things. Today is not about me and what I have to do. Today is about connecting with my littles.
Now it’s your turn. Get off Social Media, throw the to-do’s out the window for the day and do something fun with your kids and just enjoy them. You’ll be happy you did and so will they!